Grief is getting used to a new reality.
How many of us have had this ‘new reality’ foisted upon us? Too many people will raise their hands... grief is not just about dealing with the death of a loved one—though that is grief primary!
Grief is about getting used to the death of anything we’ve come to love and behold.
It is then the matter of getting used to a life without that much cherished thing or pattern for living. It’s coming to grips with things well beyond our control. This process takes time.
And grief becomes all of us at one point or other.
Perhaps one the best skills we can come to learn, apply and eventually master is that to grieve well.
This is simply to get to a place of true unequivocal acceptance quickly. This is not a process, however, that we can cheat upon. It will take as long as it takes.
© 2010 S. J. Wickham.